“Think before you breed.”

The headline of this article isn’t my favorite, but its message is poignant.

A few quotes that struck chords within me:

“Instead of seeing having children as something that women do, we will continue to see it as something that simply happens to women, or as something that is merely “natural” and animal-like.”

And…

“The individual who chooses childlessness takes the ethically less risky path. After all, nonexistent people can’t suffer from not being created. They do not have an entitlement to come into existence, and we do not owe it to them to bring them into existence. But once children do exist, we incur serious responsibilities to them.”

And…

“The genuinely unselfish life plan may at least sometimes be the choice not to have children, especially in the case of individuals who would otherwise procreate merely to adhere to tradition, to please others, to conform to gender conventions, or to benefit themselves out of the inappropriate expectation that children will fix their problems. Children are neither human pets nor little therapists.”

Interesting!

Read the rest of the article here.

Anonymous asked: Hi, I love your blog! I'm wondering if you could recommend a vibrator to me. I'm a newbie! Thanks!

Well, first… ask yourself what you’re looking to get: clit stimulation only? a vibrating (penetrating) dildo? g-stop + clit stimulator? battery operated or plugged into a wall? silicone or glass? 

Knowing these things will help you narrow down your options (because you’ll have many to choose from).

Start with something cheap so that if you’re not satisfied with it, you won’t waste a bunch of money (most stores will not let you exchange or refund your toys). But… don’t go too cheap! I’d say something between $10-$20; that’s a good start.

Next, go into a sex shop & test them out (& by that, I mean hold them in your hands, play with the different speeds & pulsations, etc.). One thing to pay attention to is how strong the vibrations are. If, on the lowest setting, the vibrator is practically jumping out of your hand, you might want to try for something less abrasive. Overstimulating your clit with strong vibrations will desensitize it & should you decide you want to go without the vibrator, you’ll have a harder time getting those feelings back. (And they do come back! It just takes time.)

If you’re going to buy a vibe online, check out the ones that are the most popular/top rated on the website. That’s always a good place to start.

For me, personally, I preferred the bullet, egg-shaped ones for clit stimulation because they were easy to hold, light in my hands, & not too powerful. (However, I do not use vibrators or any kind of toys anymore.)

Oh, & here’s a great tip: When you’re taking it for a test spin, use old batteries that still have some juice to them. Do this only if you’re worried that the vibrations might be too strong, even on a low setting.

Happy hunting!

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[NOTE: I know I said that I was going to try to answer these questions in one sentence or less, but it’s just too hard!]